Claire, My sincere condolences to you and your children. I just learned of Larry’s passing, as we have been out of touch for years. We officed together in the Jefferson building. When I had my second daughter, he visited us at my home, commenting on the massive amount of children’s things scattered around my house – then crawling around (and even under the baby swing!) to amuse my then toddler while I held the new baby. Many memories…wishing you peace on your journey.
Sincerely,
Jennifer
Ellen LeBlanc
Dear Larry….(and Larry’s Family,)
I’ve never written anything like this, but Steve and I were thinking about you so much yesterday. I’m not good with the written word and feel kind of awkward writing, but we all know you are now free of pain and for that, I know we can all thank God. Steve and I will forever be grateful for your thoughtful and absolute care of us. I know you will not be reading this, (or perhaps in some ethereal or spiritual way you can?) but if your family is reading this, I hope they will know that we still think of you so very often. You literally saved our lives. We have been married 31 years, but the turmoil we endured and that you helped us with, while under your care was so horrific for me, and for both of us. I want your family to know how wonderful you were… I attended the memorial service, so I’m positive your family knows every wonderful thing you did for others. The service was so very special .
Steve and I never realized the extent of your illness until the very end…yet you helped us and cared for us in every way. Well, one of the reasons I’m writing this is because last night, my husband, Steve and I went to a’ hipster’ kind of cocktail bar called “Garage”. That is because it is located in a parking garage in downtown Austin. You almost have to know about it and how to get there….it seems like a secret place. Anyway, Steve and I were sitting at the bar and thinking about what drink to order, and the guy behind the bar just started to make our drinks after talking to us for a bit…they were wonderful. We asked the guy his name…he winked at us and said, ….Larry. It was almost like our/your Larry was with us. Steve and I looked at each other and said…”Wow!” We really felt like Larry Bugen was somehow with us at that moment. It seemed like Larry would have totally endorsed that moment for Steve and me to share together. Steve and I are enjoying a wonderful married life together, and it definitely would have ended, except for Larry Bugen…we will always be grateful! So dear Larry’s family…Steve and I just want to emphasize what you already know….Larry was beyond special and we will never forget him. Every day is better because of him!!! Steve and I want you to know that our thoughts and prayers are with Larry’s family! Every fun thing (and even not fun things) we do together…we always think…”What would Larry say?”
Sincerely, Ellen LeBlanc
It’s is with great sadness I learned of Larry’s passing today as I was to refer him my nephew for counseling. Larry was the first counselor I ever saw at St. Edwards in 1979. I credit his gentle approach to help champion my love of psychology and becoming a becoming a professional counselor myself. I also find it oddly synergistic that today is the day I met and interviewed a publisher for my first book that I am writing in the field. Larry’s legacy of hope, love and courage will stand the test of time. And may all his family and loved ones find peace and inspiration in his memory.
James Ochoa Lpc
David Ward
Dr. Bugen was truly an impressive person and he always made me smile. My wife and I were fortunate to have found him as we struggled through our relationship. We called him “The Buge”, and he seemed to get a kick out of the moniker.
He loved photography, so I gave him a framed copy of a beat up public telephone I took a picture of in Havana Cuba. I then framed a copy for myself, realizing the inherent communication metaphor, and that, in spite of our age and shortcomings, we are all capable of making a connection.
Thank you Larry Bugen for helping me on my journey.
Leona Weinstein
Dear Claire,
I was a patient of Larry’s and my mom actually helped your daughter at one point. I was looking up the phone number for Larry and found out that he passed away. Shock and sadness came immediately for you. My mom’s name is Claire so he would always say your Claire or “My Claire.” He was an amazing man and it has been quite a while since I have seen him.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I
Bob Kennedy
I knew Larry when we were in the counseling psych program at UMC. He was such a bright, animated, engaging person. I am forever enriched by my association with him. I’m so sorry he is no longer with us.
Mike Mathis
Claire,
We all just learned of Larry’s death this week and we are so immensely sorry for your loss. When I met Larry at Carol Ann’s wedding a few years ago, I felt as if I’d known him my whole life. He was a truly GREAT man, a gentle soul. I have often looked back at our conversations and the fun you, Larry and my family shared that special day with great fondness and love for you both. My sincerest sympathy to you and your family.
Mike Mathis
Marcia Chapman
Dear Claire,
My brother, David, and I just learned today (June 29) from cousin Michael A. about the untimely passing of our wonderful cousin Larry. We were so shocked and saddened to hear this news and are so sorry for your loss.
Ben and I are grateful that Maxine had moved to Austin for a few years and allowed us to see you both because otherwise it would have only been a short hello at a wedding or funeral every few years.
I was very moved reading all of the comments and loving thoughts about my cousin. May he rest in peace. I will never forget his wonderful smile!
Love to you and your children,
Marcia and Ben
Herb Cohen
Dear Claire,
I am so very sorry to hear about Larry’s death. I know that you and your children will miss him very much. I am glad that the three of you had so many wonderful years with him and that as E.E. Cummings said, ” you carry Larry!’s heart in your hearts”.
I have great memories of Larry from grade school through high school.
Warmest regards,
Herb Cohen
Theresa Rath
Dear Erik,Claire and Jessica….i am so very sorry.
Larry was a wonderful person, again im so sorry. Erik if you need to talk pls call me 5125528347….love theresa
Gaynelle and Charlie Lescher
Dear Clarie – Our hearts go out to you and the children as you grieve the loss of Larry. He was such a very special person. At one point in my life, I don’t know what I would have done without his council. He was a great therapist and we considered him a friend.
Gaynelle & Charlie
Linda Sharpe
Dear Bugen family and many, many friends,
Reading all the tributes to Larry have brought back the flood of tears. But I selfishly cry for our earthly loss. He was taken too soon but I know that God has something bigger in store for him.
I hope that your hearts will heal quickly though the void will never be filled.
Carry on, Dr. Bugen! You have so much more to give through your books, photographs and good advice that we will remember!
Chris Heagerty
A gentle,kind heart, uncanny insight, gifted therapist and author, good husband, father and friend, life line, community legacy . . . a life well lived. Godspeed, Larry.
Cathy Scholl
There were many times when Larry was my life line. He
will missed by many.
Joan Christo
My husband and I met Larry in 1985. Over the years he was truly a wonderful therapist and a true friend. My thoughts and prayers are with Claire and their children.
Linda Hatch-Espy
I met Larry Bugen in 1988. He had an office in the TPEA builing on the corner of 11th street. I absolutely fail in love with this man, his heart,his compassion,and honesty. My heart goes out to his wife and children; you had a great man as a husband and father. May God continue to be with you always especially in times like these.
Richard Donoghue
Larry was one of the people most responsible for so many of the positive things that have happened in my life in the last 18 years after my brother’s suicide. Larry was a source of great inspiration to me and my parents in our darkest time. Without that time with Larry, I really don’t know where my life would be right now. He gave me the tools and the perspective I needed just to cope in the short term and to help me get on a path to manage my grief long term. Without his insights and guidance at a time of real need, I doubt I would have had the strength to go back and finish law school, which has now led me to a fulfilling career and a wonderful family life. I owe so much of my outlook on life to Larry. He will be greatly missed by so many people.
Ray & Linda Krzesniak
Dearest Bugen family, May you always know he was a gentle soul and a person that God is so proud of in heaven. He married our daughter Roxy and her husband Michael. We remember his special way of touching everyone that very beautiful day! I know he must have fulfilled his life on earth and God called him home to be among his Angels. His memory will never be forgotten. Our Love to all of the Bugen family.
Sonya and Jonathan Greenberg
My husband and I were greatly helped by Dr. Bugen and we will miss him more than words can say. What an inspiration as a doctor and a human being. I just lost my father and he reminded me of him in many ways–especially his love of people and curiosity and joy of life. Dr. Bugen was taken too soon and Austin is mourning him. My sympathies to his family. Sonya and Jonathan Greenberg
Bubba Bashaw
Claire and Bugen Family. My heart goes out to you. You are so fortunate to have lived / loved Larry. He was an awesome man! I will miss “Little Larry” as he fondly referred to our inner child.
Wanda Henry
Claire & family, What a great loss for you guys especially and also for all of those who have known Larry over the years. My heart goes out to you as you move forward missing the little things that mean so much. May memories of healthy, happy times comfort you. Sincerely, Wanda Henry
Karen Nunnelly
My ex-husband and I went to Dr. Bugen in the mid-80s. He was wonderful! Years after going to him, whenever I would run into him, he’d always remember my name and ask how I was. He will be deeply missed. My sincere sympathy to his family.
Anonymous
My condolences to the BUGEN family. may the God of all comfort help your family to endure during this time of grief.
Missy Sims-Bailey
Claire, I m so sorry about your loss,. Grief is greatly hard. But u will find a heart closer to Larry everyday and everywhere u go. And keep the memories in ur mind, and think of happy memories and it would help, Here my huge hug to u and the kids, I love you all and I loved Larry too God blessed u and kids heart!! Love you all
Missy Sims-Bailey,
Mañana, Texas
Emily Morrill
Claire, Erik and Jessica, I share your sorrow and loss. Larry was a GIANT as a professional! I was lucky enough to know and love him in the 70s and 80s, professionally and personally. Peace and healing and celebration to you all. He certainly molded the world! Love and Blessings, Emily Morrill
Mary Helen Soriano-Marshall
Claire, I’m sorry for your loss.
Phyllis Krantzman
I am so sorry for the passing of Larry. I knew him from U.T. I took his class, Death and Dying, way back in the 1970’s. It was one of the best classes that I have ever taken. To this day, I still talk about his class. I learned so much and I am still touched by it.
Jackie Hutson
Dr. Bugen, you made such an impact in my life and though I had not seen you in many years, I will never forget you. You were an amazing man and helped so many people over the years. God be with your family and may they find comfort in the many blessings you created by your compassion and love that you shared with us all.
Tanya Mills
Claire,
I just learned from Lisa Bosson yesterday that your husband,Larry, passed away.
I am deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved one. I never had the opportunity to meet him, but after reading about him, I could tell he was greatly loved by his family and all of his friends. You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.
Tanya Mills
Becky & Derek
Sweet Claire.. We are thinking of you and your family and praying for your strength and peace. Reading all of these comments about Larry reminds me that his was a life so very well lived as he has touched so many by his presence and his work. It’s inspiring for all of us who have known him to remember how to live our own lives. We love you and will continue to send our thoughts and prayers your way.
Ron Ralph
Bugen Family,
Larry and I became instant friends when the Bugen family moved to Parker Avenue just across the street from my childhood home. He was then warm and welcoming and fun loving yet practiced a discipline for his schoolwork and later in high school his sport. Often he would reman in his bedroom at his desk doing homework assignments while I sat in the living room talking with his Mother. Larry was more mature and self reliant than most of his peers.
Clearly Larry’s beginnings blossomed to and throughout his adult life, touching and enriching so many people. He fulfilled his aspirations and in doing so was a blessing to his family and those he touched.
Strength be with you.
Ron Ralph
Rose and Johnett
Claire —
When there are no words to say, why do we still try so hard to find them? It’s human nature to want to reach out, to touch, to try and bring comfort. But if we stop and think about Larry, we realize that he will do it for us. His words will still ring in the ears and minds of those who shared the grace of his presence, either in person or through his published words and images. His hugs, such a feature of his being that almost everyone at the memorial service mentioned them, are still there, if we are still enough to feel them.
Larry will continue to live through you, through Erik and Jessica; through the radiant love of all the souls that he..and YOU…have touched. We envision Larry swimming in his beloved Barton Springs, and the ripples created by his movement paralleling those created by his radiant spirit. They continue on, and the world is richer for having received them.
Our love and hearts go out to you and your family, as well as to others saddened by this loss. Breathe deeply and be blessed. — Rose and Johnett
Shiree Flume
To Claire and the entire Bugen family,
As I’m sure you have heard many times over the past few days,
I must tell you how much I respected and admired Larry.
His compassion, wisdom, and love for life and all it brings, are only a
few of the qualities that made him such an extraordinary person.
As a colleague, I can say he leaves a big void in the therapeutic community.
I know he also leaves a legacy of healing and goodness to all the clients
he worked with over the years, and right up to the very end of his exceptional life.
In deepest sympathy for your loss,
Shiree Flume
Mark KIester
Clair although it may seen odd to send a second comment I just wanted you to know that I thought your service for Larry was very moving and inspirational for all in attenance. What a lovely tribute for such a lovely guy. I felt like he was in the room with us.
We are all going to miss him, dearly but you sent in off is a wonderful fashion. He would have enjoyed it immensely.
Mark
Shana Mozisek
My thoughts and prayers are with the Bugen Family. I feel so blesed and honored to of known Larry and will forever cherish all the wonderful memories I shared with his family throughout the years. Larry always made me feel like family. He always had a smile on his face and enjoyed life to the fullest. Love Shana.
Cathy Scholl
How to say goodbye to such a friend and therapist. He was such a life line to so many
Good travels to the better life you will missed
Susan Ducloux
Dear Claire, Erik, and Jessica,
I don’t think I’ve ever been more moved by any memorial as that of Larry’s. Thank you for all of your hard work in putting together such a meaningful service to everyone. What stands out to me was the outpouring of how special Larry made everyone feel, which I believe is most indicative of a life well lived. I think what Larry was so uniquely and beautifully able to do was to identify in every person he had a relationship with their personal specialness, and acknowledge and appreciate that person. For me, Larry was a mentor, colleague, and friend. We met an The Austin Marriage and Family Therapists meeting, and we began a meaningful professional and personal friendship. I remember coming home to tell my husband, Claude what a wonderful new therapist friend I had met. Strangely enough Larry said that he knew Claude from the Deep Eddy swimming competitions. Through the last 7 years I’ve known Larry, I have felt honored that he trusted me with referrals. We’ve consulted on cases, talked about counseling theory, our families, his photography, travels, health issues, and life, mostly at lunch between clients on Mondays. I’ll miss my Mondays with Larry who was the most talented,supportive, genuine, generous, selfless therapist I have known. Larry had great energy and spirit, neither of which ever dies.
Susan Ducloux
Lonni
Claire good buddy, this has been such a blow to the heart for the rest of us I can only imagine how it feels to you and the kids. Celebrating with you two – everything from birthdays, New Years, graduations, and especially our joint anniversaries – has cemented a friendship that is cherished and irreplaceable. Is it a little weird that when a picture of Larry pops into my head, he’s wearing a huge grin and a party hat?
Lisa Crawford
Claire and family,
I only met Larry a few times in passing but he was always smiling and so very friendly. Reading about his life, it is apparent that he lived life to the fullest and then some. I hope your memories of Larry and the support of your TSD community give you peace in the days ahead. Sending thoughts, prayers and hugs to you and your family.
~ Lisa and Emma
Marsha Gunderson
Dear Claire,
I’m so sorry to learn of your deep loss. Sending my deepest sympathy.
Marsha
ARCHIE BAILEY
Hi Claire,
You know Larry and I have been friends since my first board meeting at Hospice Austin. He told evertone that he was my Brother. And I did the same for him. We shared ideas about a lot of things including Hospice Austin. Larry was always there when I needed someone to talk to. He was a true friend. We had planned to do a couple of projects for Hospice Austin. I still plan to get them done as soon as I can. I am sorry I can’t be there today. I will always remember Larry and his family. If there anything I can do to help, just let me know.
Your friend, Archie Bailey
Elise Ragland
Your inspiration in the pool will be remembered, Larry. Thanks for the good times and my better ones due to trying to keep up with you.
Marsha
My dear, dear cousin Larry,
I hardly know what to say. I can see his brilliant smile in my mind. He was always special… I practically grew up with his sister Shelly during the summers in Easton when we were youngsters, and was in awe of Larry even then. Each time I was lucky enough to see him at a family event, he lit up the room, laughed his unforgettable laugh (one of the most beautiful sounds in the world) and made you feel so important. One of my most special memories is the evening I spent with him and Claire over dinner in San Antonio. I was there for a conference and they met me and took me to dinner. I cherish that time, just the three of us, talking and sharing about our lives. Even as it was happening, I thought “I have to preserve this memory. Stay present in this moment and take it all in.”
Larry had an impact on everyone he met and I am no exception. His love of living fully was contagious. He pursued his dreams of writing, photography, his therapy practice and travel. I am 61 years old a full-time grad student preparing for a whole new career. Why? Larry encouraged me to live my life authentically and do what I am called to do. My direction in life is a testament to his beliefs and support. He will always own a piece of my heart. Our world has lost some of it’s sparkle with his passing. Love, Marsha
Neil Stegall
A smile, a handshake and a hug. The way I will always remember you.
William Smolow
Dear Claire, Jessica, Erik and Shelly,
Aunt Roz and I share with you the grief of losing your beloved Larry
We were fortunate to have been with Larry and Shelly when they were growing up in Easton. We saw Larry grow into a mature young man who pursed his dreams.
We cheered his record setting swimming events at the high school and were so proud when he went on to the State championships.
As a teenager conditions at home were not always easy for Larry, and losing both parents during his youth had to be traumatic.
Developing into the caring, sensitive and meaningful person he was gives evidence to Larry’s character. The tributes from his many, many friends says so much about him
Aunt Roz and I treasure the times that he stayed with us when he visited Easton. With much love, Aunt Roz and Uncle Bill
Peggy Miller
To Claire, Erik and Jessica ~ I had the honor of meeting Larry quite accidentally on Long Island when Claire was pregnant with Jessica and I with my son, Matthew (Matza). We were all transplanted to Texas about the same time. Larry was introduced to me and from then on, always remembered my name. I thought him one of the most gentle and kind men I had ever met. Later, his wise and professional guidance helped me begin a journey in life that brought me peace, serenity and love. I wish the same for each of you and hope his memories of love in your hearts will always be there to comfort you. Much love, Peggy
Michael Applebaum
Dear Claire,Jessica,Erik,Shelly and Family.. I haven’t posted a comment after hearing the news of my dear cousins death as The realization of the void he left behind was almost surreal…especially after praying for a swift and painless passing. All of our thoughts , love and empathy have been with you, and I know how difficult it was to watch your love one disappear behind a curtain of silence and wither before your eyes while being totally helpless. Besides depression, I’ve been angry at my self for not finding or making the time to have shared the joyous milestones in your lives.I know I speak for Betty when I tell you how much it meant for us to have spent one of Larrys last really Good days with him and rekindle the loving and fun relationship we had missed out on for so many years. We will all miss his awesome presence but will have the ever present memory of who he was and what he stood for.We will not let the errors of the past be repeated. All our love Mickey & Rita
Gerardo Sergio Bribiesca
“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently, allows you to grow”- William Shakespeare
Larry, my true friend and brother; you have no idea how sorely you shall be missed! A vacancy remains in my heart, and in the souls of all those you touched with your gentle manner and steadfast wisdom. Thank you for your loyalty, compassion and love. Vaya con Dios. Sergio
Lauren Kinast
Dear Claire,
We are thinking of you and your family during this difficult time – we hope with time and good thoughts of Larry while surrounded by family and friends comfort you along the way. While we never had the opportunity to meet Larry, it is evident from his website what a kind, generous, and amazing man he was.
Hugs from us all –
Lauren, Patrick, & Kameron
John
My dear friend just passed away. His name was and will always be Larry. Larry was more than a friend…he was a mentor, a colleague, a challenger, a big brother, a father figure, a reverend doctor. In short, he was extremely meaningful to me and my life. He caused me to think, he caused me to be accountable, he caused me to change in some significant ways. And it all started over ten years ago when I called on him for counseling…
Our last conversation was especially salient to the sentiments that I am experiencing with the news of Larry’s passing. It was towards then end of our time when we got onto what people focus on in life. This turned to death and what those that remain focus upon. We have tears and feelings of sadness for our loss. I have shed many for Larry, as I am sure many, many others have as well.
Our discussion turned to looking forward versus back. We talked that the sadness is for us. We have lost someone of meaning in our lives. The person who has departed is in a much better place. To a degree, we agreed, the sadness is self-focused. Grieving is good, needed and has its place for our hearts and souls.
But we also agreed that there should likely be a stronger look forward. Honor the person that meant so much by taking their lessons and moving forward with the happiness that they gave you. Live what they taught you. Give to others in homage to those that are gone. As happened many times over the years, we both loved that discussion.
It is with this last face-to-face session with Larry that I will go. With my tears and heavy heart I plan to move forward in honor of all that I was given…I move forward in happiness…with Larry deep within.
Debbie Kopp
Dear Claire,
Sending thoughts and prayers to you, your children, and your family at this time of great loss and grief. I have heard only wonderful things about your husband over the years. And though I never had the privilege of meeting him, after reading about his life, I can see that he was one of a kind. Bless you and your family. The TSD family send you our love and support.
Debbie
DiAnne Allison
Dear Claire,
I am so sorry that I never had an opportunity to meet your husband, but after reading about his life, I totally understand how the two of you melded so well for 43 years! I know your grief is deep and the loss is great! Please know that those of us who have been your friends and colleagues will always be there to support you and lift you up! Holding you and your family close to my heart. . . . DiAnne
Patricia S.
Claire, I am so very saddened by Larry’s premature passing. He is and will always be at the top of my life’s greatest gift’s list. He put me back together in couples counseling and helped me restructure my sense of self. I will be forever grateful for his compassion, guidance and nurturance.
Karl A. Ewan
Dear Claire,
I’ve met Larry a couple of times and by looking at his website, I can see that he was an amazing man. I’m saddened to see another amazing person depart this world.
You and your family are in our thoughts.
Karl, Heidi, and Holden
Jan Phillips
I hardly know where to begin…my heart is broken.
Larry started out as my therapist, but grew to be much more. He became my cheerleader, my mentor, my friend, the constant in a life turned upside down more than once. For that I am forever grateful.
Larry walked my husband and I through the painful journey of grief after we lost our beloved son, Ian. He showed us how to keep living, and growing, in the midst of our sadness. He became our greatest supporter when we decided to adopt children a few years later.
Larry was there to once again take my hand and walk the grief journey with me, and my children, after my husband, Marty, died. He was such a wonderful therapist, always knowing what to say, always showing us a reason to live, a way to go on, how to reinvent and rediscover who we are. His encouragement and belief in me has led me to where I am today. I am so blessed to have had such a gentle, yet powerful guiding force inspiring my life.
Larry, I hope you have found Marty and Ian, as well as your many other loved ones. The knowledge and light you have must be amazing! My thoughts are with Claire, your children, and family. Thank you for being such an incredible person, for giving so much to me and so many others. I will miss you, my friend.
With love and gratitude,
Jan
Diana Rutledge
My dear friend Larry, Where do I begin? There is so much to say…and yet the words almost escape me. I am deeply saddened that you are no longer with us on this beautiful Earth.
Larry started coming to see me for haircuts right around 1985. At first he was my client, and then grew to be one of my closest and dearest friends. We shared so many stories as he sat in the chair and I clipped away. Fond memories that I will never forget. We shared our love of photography, and I learned so much from him. we were constantly showing each other our most recent photos and asking each other advice about cropping and so forth. We both shared our love for nature, and many other things. So when we saw each other every three weeks, it was non-stop talking! He always put up with me jumping from one subject to the next…interrupting myself along the way. We were there for each other during trying times and always there to pat each other on the back and hug during the good times. Claire, Erik, and Jessica, having heard about you all for so many years,I feel I know you… and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Larry, I thank you for being in my life…I am very blessed. I love you my friend. Rest peacefully.
David Clemons
Larry,
You were a true friend, a trusted colleague, and a mentor. I miss you. I am so grateful to have spent the past several years working alongside you. I feel blessed to have had so many conversations with you and I will treasure those moments the most. Thank you for being a model of a loving spouse, a devoted father, and an inspired therapist. I’ve rarely met someone with your passion for life, and even more rare, your dedication to spread that joy to anyone who would partake. I will always remember your sense of humor, especially your ability to laugh at yourself, gently. I watched you buoy the spirits of others as a way of life; you certainly did mine. As my 11 year old said through tears when she heard of your passing, “He made my daddy happy.”
AJ Senchack
Larry, you are such a dear and special person! Our conversations together were like a coffee break in a faculty break room—intellectual while discussing cognitive psychology and Burns’ “Feeling Good”, but also very much personal—your passion for photography, our families, and our different experiences at UT-Austin. Such an easy person to be with, and always with that quick smile. I’m certain that I am only one of hundreds who have been similarly touched and graced by your friendship.
Claire, I’m so glad you all moved to Texas and gave us the wonderful opportunity to get to know your husband. We will keep you, Erik, and Jessica in our prayers and thoughts.
Dear friend…
You were a great friend when I needed one and a wonderful angel for Nancy and I as we learned your lessons for love. You are free of all burdens today and we are left to be your examples to the rest of our Christian community. Thanks for your friendship and gentle counsel. Be with the Lord and rest….
Love, Brad & Nancy
Rita Reynolds-Gibbs
Claire,
I am thinking of you.
Holding you in my heart and in my prayers.
With sympathy and love,
Rita Gibbs
Sylvia Hutson
Our son Ryan is married to Larry’s beloved daughter, Jessica. Larry and Claire have been “family” to us from the first time we met at their lovely home for lunch. The years have flown by, and we have treasured each and every time we have been together. My fondest memories are of us following Ryan around during marathons, with Larry trying to get us to the perfect spot for photos; our dinners together when we would discuss many things (but mostly our children); being proud parents at our children’s beautiful Costa Rica wedding; a weekend at Lake Travis and an unforgettable ride in his boat and dip in the lake; and special memories of the two times they came to our East Texas ranch where Larry was fascinated with driving the tractor. He made Robert and I both feel very special, important and loved. My heart goes out to Claire, Jessica, Erik, Ryan, Shelly and all his family members, friends and clients, because I know how much they will miss him. We were so blessed to have known him and he will always live in our memory and in our hearts.
Teresa C.
In a way it’s ironic that there is a website for tributes to Larry, because I don’t think he even used an email address – such an old-fashioned guy. Yet otherwise I would never have the chance to let you, Claire, and your family know what a wonderful man Larry was to us. The way he got us back on track was so amazing and with such a personal and caring touch. I wish we could thank him again. What an amazing life, cut way too short. You all are in our thoughts and prayers. May peace be with Larry and all of you.
Margaret DuMont
Larry was there for me in my darkest days, a soothing and inspiring
counselor and friend. He was the epitome of empathy, warmth, and genuineness, gently assisting me in gathering myself together and moving on. I know I was one of thousands he assisted so ably. I will miss his warm presence, but know that he is still a part of the universe he so loved. Rest in peace, dear Larry.
Mark Kiester
Larry my friend and doctor I will miss you for the rest of my life. You taught me so much about myself and about life. You lifted my spirits when I went through dark times. You were first my doctor and then my friend. I always looked forward to our occassional lunches when we talked about work, family, swimming, photography and life. I will cherish our last visit from late last year.
Your gentle spirit, ever enduring optimism and keen insight served hundreds of people so well. I have read all your books and refer to them often. I have given them as gifts to others and they were always welcome. Gosh I’m going to miss you. Thank you so much for being part of my life.
Michael Chern
Larry, Steve Richman and I were pledge and fraternity bothers and roommates at Temple University. Many of Steve’s thoughts, I echo. After college, we lost touch, although I did speak with him a few times on the phone. Larry and I finally had a chance to get together again this past February when I was in Austin at attend a wedding. Although he was very ill, he came to meet me at my hotel and he drove me around to many of the places important to him: his office, Claire’s place work and finally the outdoor swimming pool where he continued a sport he had participated in since childhood. When we said goodbye, we embraced. I feel extremely fortunate to have known Larry and to have the chance to say goodbye.
Judy Mounty
Claire,
My thoughts are with you and your family. I am sorry that I never knew your beloved Larry. He sounds like an incredible person and I truly believe that his spirit will continue to guide his loved ones, as well as the many whose lives he touched personally and professionally.
With warmth and sympathy,
Judy Mounty
Jan Mitchell Downs
I am deeply saddened by Larry’s death. He literally saved my life in 1990 after the death of my 13 year old daughter, Melissa Mitchell. He helped me find a reason to live and walked with me on the long, long road of grief for several years. I will always hold him in my heart. He was truly one of a kind. There is no counselor as intuitive, understanding, thought provoking, and kind as he. There never will be.
Larry, you were a gift to the Casa de Luz community, a bright light that will continue to shine in our hearts. You are love personified. You wisdom and the memory of your presence will live on in the hearts of all of us that loved you so much at Casa de Luz.
Thank you for blessing our lives,
Wayo and the Casa de Luz Community
Joan Forney
My thoughts and prayers go out to Larry’s family and especially to Claire and his children. I met Larry several times and was so impressed with his gentle spirit. He will be missed by many. Joan Forney
Rick Himes
Having special friendships, truly special ones, does not happen very often. I did not understand this when I was a younger person, but I have been fortunate to have had a very few of them in my life. My relationship with Larry Bugen was one of those, and the loss of that is heartbreaking to all who knew and loved him. As with others Larry and I shared some difficult, heartbreaking, warm, funny, stupid, inspiring, and rarely lazy times together, never to be forgotten. He was my one male confidant that I could rely upon, anytime, any issue. I will greatly miss you, my friend.
As you once said at another friend’s memorial service, “Va bene.”
I never met Larry, yet a bit of Larry lives in all of us.
Adventure, Hope, Pride of Family, and of course, the sorrows of a life well-lived.
I do know his sister, Shelly Bugen Devine. The dignity, the grace, the instilled values of Family shine within Shelly, and reflect the prism that generated from parents who cared, and gave.
To paraphrase a quote I have always loved: :Joy He Gave ; Joy He has Found.
Fly Free.
Denise Harrington-Pflieger
Eddy Edmondson
I first met Larry at the Austin downtown YMCA. He always had a smile and genuine interest in what was happening in my life. He was a great person with an always positive attitude. There will be a large void where Larry walked. Rest in peace, my friend.
Stephen Richman
So many thoughts, so many memories of the man I knew and loved.
Larry and I were college roommates and fraternity brothers at Temple University back in the 60’s. Some of those stories, you can understand, are better left unpublished. Following graduation life took us in different directions and after my wedding we lost contact for many years. Fortunately, through the efforts of my wife, Sharon, who was attending a conference in Austin in the 90’s and reached out to Larry, were able to correct that situation. Soon, we resumed a close friendship as if a day hadn’t passed. It seemed rather humorous to me at the time that Larry would re-locate to Texas, the land of giant bugs. You see, when we were in college Larry was quite afraid of these creatures — especially roaches. Occasionally (but not too often, because as college boys we always kept our apartment clean), I would come home after Larry had gone out and find glasses, plates or even trash cans upside down in the kitchen or living room. There would be a note from Larry with instructions to kill the insect trapped inside. And this from a guy who prided himself on staying in excellent physical condition.
We subsequently visited Larry and Claire in Austin and met up with each other on trips to Las Vegas and New Orleans. I can still remember golfing in Vegas with Larry in 100 degree plus heat! Larry visited us in upstate New York on one of his many photography trips and was “kind” enough to share some old college stories with our sons. Nearly three years ago he and Claire visited us in our new home in Philadelphia, shortly after we moved here. Larry was insistent on exploring some old haunts and had me driving around neighborhoods I really preferred to avoid. He was calm, I was not.
That’s the last time we saw each other. At the time we were both recovering (or so I thought) from bouts with cancer, having been diagnosed around the same time with different types of this dread disease. Little did we know what the next several years would hold for Larry and Claire.
The guy I knew in college changed over the years. I guess we all do, to a degree. He married, raised two wonderful children, became a highly successful clinician and author and gave back to his community in so many ways. I was, and sill am in awe of his photography. It has inspired me over the years to improve my own photographic skills. But most of all Larry became a gentle and wise soul. His concern for others was apparent in so many ways. He cherished and nurtured positive relationships among family, friends and colleagues. He not only talked the talk, he walked the walk. He cared deeply for those around him and made you feel when you were with him that you were the most important person in the world. You could talk to Larry — about almost anything — and he would listen and provide guidance. Sometimes we would talk over the phone after a prolonged period of little contact and he would say, “hey good buddy”. And then the words would spill out. At the end of the conversation he would always say, “love you”.
So goodbye good buddy; I love you too. Rest in peace.
Scott Rubel
I will always have fond memories of meeting Larry for the first time, when he interviewed me for a position on Hospice Austin’s operating board. I was struck by his compassion, his enthusiasm, and his intense personal interest: when he asked you questions, he really cared about what you had to say. It was a wonderful experience, and a significant reason for my involvement in hospice care. I will always be grateful to Larry for opening that door for me. We will miss him, but he has left a wonderful legacy through the people he touched.
Scott
Marjorie Mulanax
Larry,
I will never forget you. You helped all of us to see the good within ourselves. What an extraordinary gift you were to all of us. Thank you for 20 years of support and friendship. You made the world a better place.
Much love,
Marjorie
John Knox
Larry and I were YMCA friends. He always had a glow to him that made me want to talk to him and I also found him rather Hip in a way that was nice. Reminded me a bit of Donald Sutherland. Great sense of humor and energy. My regards, to his family and friends. John
Rachel Gray
Within minutes of meeting Larry seven years ago, he asked how my relationship with my live-in boyfriend was going. Always fascinated by interpersonal relationships! There was an immediate light and warmth exuding from Larry that was clearly felt by many. Jess, I know I will share many stories and memories of your Dad as our friendship and families grow in the coming years.
All my love,
Rachel
Kathleen Davis Niendorff
First, we were your clients; then you were my client. And it was good. It was all good. It was all grace. “Into your hands, O merciful God, we commend your servant Larry. Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming. Receive him into the arms of your mercy, into the blessed rest of everlasting peace, and into the glorious company of the saints in light. Amen.” (BCP)
Patty Praytor
Larry’s death leave a huge hole in so many lives. He will be greatly missed.However,the gifts he gave each of us will live on in our daily journeys in this world. Thank you, Larry, for the love you so easily poured out on us. We are better people because of you.
Patty
Jan Phillips
Dear Larry,
I am so saddened by your health troubles. You have made a huge difference in my life and the lives of my children. But you know that! I’m not sure where I would be without the help, guidance, and support I received from you. You took my hand and helped me walk out of the darkness that was my life. I wish that I could do as much for you.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Claire, My sincere condolences to you and your children. I just learned of Larry’s passing, as we have been out of touch for years. We officed together in the Jefferson building. When I had my second daughter, he visited us at my home, commenting on the massive amount of children’s things scattered around my house – then crawling around (and even under the baby swing!) to amuse my then toddler while I held the new baby. Many memories…wishing you peace on your journey.
Sincerely,
Jennifer
Dear Larry….(and Larry’s Family,)
I’ve never written anything like this, but Steve and I were thinking about you so much yesterday. I’m not good with the written word and feel kind of awkward writing, but we all know you are now free of pain and for that, I know we can all thank God. Steve and I will forever be grateful for your thoughtful and absolute care of us. I know you will not be reading this, (or perhaps in some ethereal or spiritual way you can?) but if your family is reading this, I hope they will know that we still think of you so very often. You literally saved our lives. We have been married 31 years, but the turmoil we endured and that you helped us with, while under your care was so horrific for me, and for both of us. I want your family to know how wonderful you were… I attended the memorial service, so I’m positive your family knows every wonderful thing you did for others. The service was so very special .
Steve and I never realized the extent of your illness until the very end…yet you helped us and cared for us in every way. Well, one of the reasons I’m writing this is because last night, my husband, Steve and I went to a’ hipster’ kind of cocktail bar called “Garage”. That is because it is located in a parking garage in downtown Austin. You almost have to know about it and how to get there….it seems like a secret place. Anyway, Steve and I were sitting at the bar and thinking about what drink to order, and the guy behind the bar just started to make our drinks after talking to us for a bit…they were wonderful. We asked the guy his name…he winked at us and said, ….Larry. It was almost like our/your Larry was with us. Steve and I looked at each other and said…”Wow!” We really felt like Larry Bugen was somehow with us at that moment. It seemed like Larry would have totally endorsed that moment for Steve and me to share together. Steve and I are enjoying a wonderful married life together, and it definitely would have ended, except for Larry Bugen…we will always be grateful! So dear Larry’s family…Steve and I just want to emphasize what you already know….Larry was beyond special and we will never forget him. Every day is better because of him!!! Steve and I want you to know that our thoughts and prayers are with Larry’s family! Every fun thing (and even not fun things) we do together…we always think…”What would Larry say?”
Sincerely, Ellen LeBlanc
It’s is with great sadness I learned of Larry’s passing today as I was to refer him my nephew for counseling. Larry was the first counselor I ever saw at St. Edwards in 1979. I credit his gentle approach to help champion my love of psychology and becoming a becoming a professional counselor myself. I also find it oddly synergistic that today is the day I met and interviewed a publisher for my first book that I am writing in the field. Larry’s legacy of hope, love and courage will stand the test of time. And may all his family and loved ones find peace and inspiration in his memory.
James Ochoa Lpc
Dr. Bugen was truly an impressive person and he always made me smile. My wife and I were fortunate to have found him as we struggled through our relationship. We called him “The Buge”, and he seemed to get a kick out of the moniker.
He loved photography, so I gave him a framed copy of a beat up public telephone I took a picture of in Havana Cuba. I then framed a copy for myself, realizing the inherent communication metaphor, and that, in spite of our age and shortcomings, we are all capable of making a connection.
Thank you Larry Bugen for helping me on my journey.
Dear Claire,
I was a patient of Larry’s and my mom actually helped your daughter at one point. I was looking up the phone number for Larry and found out that he passed away. Shock and sadness came immediately for you. My mom’s name is Claire so he would always say your Claire or “My Claire.” He was an amazing man and it has been quite a while since I have seen him.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I
I knew Larry when we were in the counseling psych program at UMC. He was such a bright, animated, engaging person. I am forever enriched by my association with him. I’m so sorry he is no longer with us.
Claire,
We all just learned of Larry’s death this week and we are so immensely sorry for your loss. When I met Larry at Carol Ann’s wedding a few years ago, I felt as if I’d known him my whole life. He was a truly GREAT man, a gentle soul. I have often looked back at our conversations and the fun you, Larry and my family shared that special day with great fondness and love for you both. My sincerest sympathy to you and your family.
Mike Mathis
Dear Claire,
My brother, David, and I just learned today (June 29) from cousin Michael A. about the untimely passing of our wonderful cousin Larry. We were so shocked and saddened to hear this news and are so sorry for your loss.
Ben and I are grateful that Maxine had moved to Austin for a few years and allowed us to see you both because otherwise it would have only been a short hello at a wedding or funeral every few years.
I was very moved reading all of the comments and loving thoughts about my cousin. May he rest in peace. I will never forget his wonderful smile!
Love to you and your children,
Marcia and Ben
Dear Claire,
I am so very sorry to hear about Larry’s death. I know that you and your children will miss him very much. I am glad that the three of you had so many wonderful years with him and that as E.E. Cummings said, ” you carry Larry!’s heart in your hearts”.
I have great memories of Larry from grade school through high school.
Warmest regards,
Herb Cohen
Dear Erik,Claire and Jessica….i am so very sorry.
Larry was a wonderful person, again im so sorry. Erik if you need to talk pls call me 5125528347….love theresa
Dear Clarie – Our hearts go out to you and the children as you grieve the loss of Larry. He was such a very special person. At one point in my life, I don’t know what I would have done without his council. He was a great therapist and we considered him a friend.
Gaynelle & Charlie
Dear Bugen family and many, many friends,
Reading all the tributes to Larry have brought back the flood of tears. But I selfishly cry for our earthly loss. He was taken too soon but I know that God has something bigger in store for him.
I hope that your hearts will heal quickly though the void will never be filled.
Carry on, Dr. Bugen! You have so much more to give through your books, photographs and good advice that we will remember!
A gentle,kind heart, uncanny insight, gifted therapist and author, good husband, father and friend, life line, community legacy . . . a life well lived. Godspeed, Larry.
There were many times when Larry was my life line. He
will missed by many.
My husband and I met Larry in 1985. Over the years he was truly a wonderful therapist and a true friend. My thoughts and prayers are with Claire and their children.
I met Larry Bugen in 1988. He had an office in the TPEA builing on the corner of 11th street. I absolutely fail in love with this man, his heart,his compassion,and honesty. My heart goes out to his wife and children; you had a great man as a husband and father. May God continue to be with you always especially in times like these.
Larry was one of the people most responsible for so many of the positive things that have happened in my life in the last 18 years after my brother’s suicide. Larry was a source of great inspiration to me and my parents in our darkest time. Without that time with Larry, I really don’t know where my life would be right now. He gave me the tools and the perspective I needed just to cope in the short term and to help me get on a path to manage my grief long term. Without his insights and guidance at a time of real need, I doubt I would have had the strength to go back and finish law school, which has now led me to a fulfilling career and a wonderful family life. I owe so much of my outlook on life to Larry. He will be greatly missed by so many people.
Dearest Bugen family, May you always know he was a gentle soul and a person that God is so proud of in heaven. He married our daughter Roxy and her husband Michael. We remember his special way of touching everyone that very beautiful day! I know he must have fulfilled his life on earth and God called him home to be among his Angels. His memory will never be forgotten. Our Love to all of the Bugen family.
My husband and I were greatly helped by Dr. Bugen and we will miss him more than words can say. What an inspiration as a doctor and a human being. I just lost my father and he reminded me of him in many ways–especially his love of people and curiosity and joy of life. Dr. Bugen was taken too soon and Austin is mourning him. My sympathies to his family. Sonya and Jonathan Greenberg
Claire and Bugen Family. My heart goes out to you. You are so fortunate to have lived / loved Larry. He was an awesome man! I will miss “Little Larry” as he fondly referred to our inner child.
Claire & family, What a great loss for you guys especially and also for all of those who have known Larry over the years. My heart goes out to you as you move forward missing the little things that mean so much. May memories of healthy, happy times comfort you. Sincerely, Wanda Henry
My ex-husband and I went to Dr. Bugen in the mid-80s. He was wonderful! Years after going to him, whenever I would run into him, he’d always remember my name and ask how I was. He will be deeply missed. My sincere sympathy to his family.
My condolences to the BUGEN family. may the God of all comfort help your family to endure during this time of grief.
Claire, I m so sorry about your loss,. Grief is greatly hard. But u will find a heart closer to Larry everyday and everywhere u go. And keep the memories in ur mind, and think of happy memories and it would help, Here my huge hug to u and the kids, I love you all and I loved Larry too God blessed u and kids heart!! Love you all
Missy Sims-Bailey,
Mañana, Texas
Claire, Erik and Jessica, I share your sorrow and loss. Larry was a GIANT as a professional! I was lucky enough to know and love him in the 70s and 80s, professionally and personally. Peace and healing and celebration to you all. He certainly molded the world! Love and Blessings, Emily Morrill
Claire, I’m sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for the passing of Larry. I knew him from U.T. I took his class, Death and Dying, way back in the 1970’s. It was one of the best classes that I have ever taken. To this day, I still talk about his class. I learned so much and I am still touched by it.
Dr. Bugen, you made such an impact in my life and though I had not seen you in many years, I will never forget you. You were an amazing man and helped so many people over the years. God be with your family and may they find comfort in the many blessings you created by your compassion and love that you shared with us all.
Claire,
I just learned from Lisa Bosson yesterday that your husband,Larry, passed away.
I am deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved one. I never had the opportunity to meet him, but after reading about him, I could tell he was greatly loved by his family and all of his friends. You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.
Tanya Mills
Sweet Claire.. We are thinking of you and your family and praying for your strength and peace. Reading all of these comments about Larry reminds me that his was a life so very well lived as he has touched so many by his presence and his work. It’s inspiring for all of us who have known him to remember how to live our own lives. We love you and will continue to send our thoughts and prayers your way.
Bugen Family,
Larry and I became instant friends when the Bugen family moved to Parker Avenue just across the street from my childhood home. He was then warm and welcoming and fun loving yet practiced a discipline for his schoolwork and later in high school his sport. Often he would reman in his bedroom at his desk doing homework assignments while I sat in the living room talking with his Mother. Larry was more mature and self reliant than most of his peers.
Clearly Larry’s beginnings blossomed to and throughout his adult life, touching and enriching so many people. He fulfilled his aspirations and in doing so was a blessing to his family and those he touched.
Strength be with you.
Ron Ralph
Claire —
When there are no words to say, why do we still try so hard to find them? It’s human nature to want to reach out, to touch, to try and bring comfort. But if we stop and think about Larry, we realize that he will do it for us. His words will still ring in the ears and minds of those who shared the grace of his presence, either in person or through his published words and images. His hugs, such a feature of his being that almost everyone at the memorial service mentioned them, are still there, if we are still enough to feel them.
Larry will continue to live through you, through Erik and Jessica; through the radiant love of all the souls that he..and YOU…have touched. We envision Larry swimming in his beloved Barton Springs, and the ripples created by his movement paralleling those created by his radiant spirit. They continue on, and the world is richer for having received them.
Our love and hearts go out to you and your family, as well as to others saddened by this loss. Breathe deeply and be blessed. — Rose and Johnett
To Claire and the entire Bugen family,
As I’m sure you have heard many times over the past few days,
I must tell you how much I respected and admired Larry.
His compassion, wisdom, and love for life and all it brings, are only a
few of the qualities that made him such an extraordinary person.
As a colleague, I can say he leaves a big void in the therapeutic community.
I know he also leaves a legacy of healing and goodness to all the clients
he worked with over the years, and right up to the very end of his exceptional life.
In deepest sympathy for your loss,
Shiree Flume
Clair although it may seen odd to send a second comment I just wanted you to know that I thought your service for Larry was very moving and inspirational for all in attenance. What a lovely tribute for such a lovely guy. I felt like he was in the room with us.
We are all going to miss him, dearly but you sent in off is a wonderful fashion. He would have enjoyed it immensely.
Mark
My thoughts and prayers are with the Bugen Family. I feel so blesed and honored to of known Larry and will forever cherish all the wonderful memories I shared with his family throughout the years. Larry always made me feel like family. He always had a smile on his face and enjoyed life to the fullest. Love Shana.
How to say goodbye to such a friend and therapist. He was such a life line to so many
Good travels to the better life you will missed
Dear Claire, Erik, and Jessica,
I don’t think I’ve ever been more moved by any memorial as that of Larry’s. Thank you for all of your hard work in putting together such a meaningful service to everyone. What stands out to me was the outpouring of how special Larry made everyone feel, which I believe is most indicative of a life well lived. I think what Larry was so uniquely and beautifully able to do was to identify in every person he had a relationship with their personal specialness, and acknowledge and appreciate that person. For me, Larry was a mentor, colleague, and friend. We met an The Austin Marriage and Family Therapists meeting, and we began a meaningful professional and personal friendship. I remember coming home to tell my husband, Claude what a wonderful new therapist friend I had met. Strangely enough Larry said that he knew Claude from the Deep Eddy swimming competitions. Through the last 7 years I’ve known Larry, I have felt honored that he trusted me with referrals. We’ve consulted on cases, talked about counseling theory, our families, his photography, travels, health issues, and life, mostly at lunch between clients on Mondays. I’ll miss my Mondays with Larry who was the most talented,supportive, genuine, generous, selfless therapist I have known. Larry had great energy and spirit, neither of which ever dies.
Susan Ducloux
Claire good buddy, this has been such a blow to the heart for the rest of us I can only imagine how it feels to you and the kids. Celebrating with you two – everything from birthdays, New Years, graduations, and especially our joint anniversaries – has cemented a friendship that is cherished and irreplaceable. Is it a little weird that when a picture of Larry pops into my head, he’s wearing a huge grin and a party hat?
Claire and family,
I only met Larry a few times in passing but he was always smiling and so very friendly. Reading about his life, it is apparent that he lived life to the fullest and then some. I hope your memories of Larry and the support of your TSD community give you peace in the days ahead. Sending thoughts, prayers and hugs to you and your family.
~ Lisa and Emma
Dear Claire,
I’m so sorry to learn of your deep loss. Sending my deepest sympathy.
Marsha
Hi Claire,
You know Larry and I have been friends since my first board meeting at Hospice Austin. He told evertone that he was my Brother. And I did the same for him. We shared ideas about a lot of things including Hospice Austin. Larry was always there when I needed someone to talk to. He was a true friend. We had planned to do a couple of projects for Hospice Austin. I still plan to get them done as soon as I can. I am sorry I can’t be there today. I will always remember Larry and his family. If there anything I can do to help, just let me know.
Your friend, Archie Bailey
Your inspiration in the pool will be remembered, Larry. Thanks for the good times and my better ones due to trying to keep up with you.
My dear, dear cousin Larry,
I hardly know what to say. I can see his brilliant smile in my mind. He was always special… I practically grew up with his sister Shelly during the summers in Easton when we were youngsters, and was in awe of Larry even then. Each time I was lucky enough to see him at a family event, he lit up the room, laughed his unforgettable laugh (one of the most beautiful sounds in the world) and made you feel so important. One of my most special memories is the evening I spent with him and Claire over dinner in San Antonio. I was there for a conference and they met me and took me to dinner. I cherish that time, just the three of us, talking and sharing about our lives. Even as it was happening, I thought “I have to preserve this memory. Stay present in this moment and take it all in.”
Larry had an impact on everyone he met and I am no exception. His love of living fully was contagious. He pursued his dreams of writing, photography, his therapy practice and travel. I am 61 years old a full-time grad student preparing for a whole new career. Why? Larry encouraged me to live my life authentically and do what I am called to do. My direction in life is a testament to his beliefs and support. He will always own a piece of my heart. Our world has lost some of it’s sparkle with his passing. Love, Marsha
A smile, a handshake and a hug. The way I will always remember you.
Dear Claire, Jessica, Erik and Shelly,
Aunt Roz and I share with you the grief of losing your beloved Larry
We were fortunate to have been with Larry and Shelly when they were growing up in Easton. We saw Larry grow into a mature young man who pursed his dreams.
We cheered his record setting swimming events at the high school and were so proud when he went on to the State championships.
As a teenager conditions at home were not always easy for Larry, and losing both parents during his youth had to be traumatic.
Developing into the caring, sensitive and meaningful person he was gives evidence to Larry’s character. The tributes from his many, many friends says so much about him
Aunt Roz and I treasure the times that he stayed with us when he visited Easton. With much love, Aunt Roz and Uncle Bill
To Claire, Erik and Jessica ~ I had the honor of meeting Larry quite accidentally on Long Island when Claire was pregnant with Jessica and I with my son, Matthew (Matza). We were all transplanted to Texas about the same time. Larry was introduced to me and from then on, always remembered my name. I thought him one of the most gentle and kind men I had ever met. Later, his wise and professional guidance helped me begin a journey in life that brought me peace, serenity and love. I wish the same for each of you and hope his memories of love in your hearts will always be there to comfort you. Much love, Peggy
Dear Claire,Jessica,Erik,Shelly and Family.. I haven’t posted a comment after hearing the news of my dear cousins death as The realization of the void he left behind was almost surreal…especially after praying for a swift and painless passing. All of our thoughts , love and empathy have been with you, and I know how difficult it was to watch your love one disappear behind a curtain of silence and wither before your eyes while being totally helpless. Besides depression, I’ve been angry at my self for not finding or making the time to have shared the joyous milestones in your lives.I know I speak for Betty when I tell you how much it meant for us to have spent one of Larrys last really Good days with him and rekindle the loving and fun relationship we had missed out on for so many years. We will all miss his awesome presence but will have the ever present memory of who he was and what he stood for.We will not let the errors of the past be repeated. All our love Mickey & Rita
“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently, allows you to grow”- William Shakespeare
Larry, my true friend and brother; you have no idea how sorely you shall be missed! A vacancy remains in my heart, and in the souls of all those you touched with your gentle manner and steadfast wisdom. Thank you for your loyalty, compassion and love. Vaya con Dios. Sergio
Dear Claire,
We are thinking of you and your family during this difficult time – we hope with time and good thoughts of Larry while surrounded by family and friends comfort you along the way. While we never had the opportunity to meet Larry, it is evident from his website what a kind, generous, and amazing man he was.
Hugs from us all –
Lauren, Patrick, & Kameron
My dear friend just passed away. His name was and will always be Larry. Larry was more than a friend…he was a mentor, a colleague, a challenger, a big brother, a father figure, a reverend doctor. In short, he was extremely meaningful to me and my life. He caused me to think, he caused me to be accountable, he caused me to change in some significant ways. And it all started over ten years ago when I called on him for counseling…
Our last conversation was especially salient to the sentiments that I am experiencing with the news of Larry’s passing. It was towards then end of our time when we got onto what people focus on in life. This turned to death and what those that remain focus upon. We have tears and feelings of sadness for our loss. I have shed many for Larry, as I am sure many, many others have as well.
Our discussion turned to looking forward versus back. We talked that the sadness is for us. We have lost someone of meaning in our lives. The person who has departed is in a much better place. To a degree, we agreed, the sadness is self-focused. Grieving is good, needed and has its place for our hearts and souls.
But we also agreed that there should likely be a stronger look forward. Honor the person that meant so much by taking their lessons and moving forward with the happiness that they gave you. Live what they taught you. Give to others in homage to those that are gone. As happened many times over the years, we both loved that discussion.
It is with this last face-to-face session with Larry that I will go. With my tears and heavy heart I plan to move forward in honor of all that I was given…I move forward in happiness…with Larry deep within.
Dear Claire,
Sending thoughts and prayers to you, your children, and your family at this time of great loss and grief. I have heard only wonderful things about your husband over the years. And though I never had the privilege of meeting him, after reading about his life, I can see that he was one of a kind. Bless you and your family. The TSD family send you our love and support.
Debbie
Dear Claire,
I am so sorry that I never had an opportunity to meet your husband, but after reading about his life, I totally understand how the two of you melded so well for 43 years! I know your grief is deep and the loss is great! Please know that those of us who have been your friends and colleagues will always be there to support you and lift you up! Holding you and your family close to my heart. . . . DiAnne
Claire, I am so very saddened by Larry’s premature passing. He is and will always be at the top of my life’s greatest gift’s list. He put me back together in couples counseling and helped me restructure my sense of self. I will be forever grateful for his compassion, guidance and nurturance.
Dear Claire,
I’ve met Larry a couple of times and by looking at his website, I can see that he was an amazing man. I’m saddened to see another amazing person depart this world.
You and your family are in our thoughts.
Karl, Heidi, and Holden
I hardly know where to begin…my heart is broken.
Larry started out as my therapist, but grew to be much more. He became my cheerleader, my mentor, my friend, the constant in a life turned upside down more than once. For that I am forever grateful.
Larry walked my husband and I through the painful journey of grief after we lost our beloved son, Ian. He showed us how to keep living, and growing, in the midst of our sadness. He became our greatest supporter when we decided to adopt children a few years later.
Larry was there to once again take my hand and walk the grief journey with me, and my children, after my husband, Marty, died. He was such a wonderful therapist, always knowing what to say, always showing us a reason to live, a way to go on, how to reinvent and rediscover who we are. His encouragement and belief in me has led me to where I am today. I am so blessed to have had such a gentle, yet powerful guiding force inspiring my life.
Larry, I hope you have found Marty and Ian, as well as your many other loved ones. The knowledge and light you have must be amazing! My thoughts are with Claire, your children, and family. Thank you for being such an incredible person, for giving so much to me and so many others. I will miss you, my friend.
With love and gratitude,
Jan
My dear friend Larry, Where do I begin? There is so much to say…and yet the words almost escape me. I am deeply saddened that you are no longer with us on this beautiful Earth.
Larry started coming to see me for haircuts right around 1985. At first he was my client, and then grew to be one of my closest and dearest friends. We shared so many stories as he sat in the chair and I clipped away. Fond memories that I will never forget. We shared our love of photography, and I learned so much from him. we were constantly showing each other our most recent photos and asking each other advice about cropping and so forth. We both shared our love for nature, and many other things. So when we saw each other every three weeks, it was non-stop talking! He always put up with me jumping from one subject to the next…interrupting myself along the way. We were there for each other during trying times and always there to pat each other on the back and hug during the good times. Claire, Erik, and Jessica, having heard about you all for so many years,I feel I know you… and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Larry, I thank you for being in my life…I am very blessed. I love you my friend. Rest peacefully.
Larry,
You were a true friend, a trusted colleague, and a mentor. I miss you. I am so grateful to have spent the past several years working alongside you. I feel blessed to have had so many conversations with you and I will treasure those moments the most. Thank you for being a model of a loving spouse, a devoted father, and an inspired therapist. I’ve rarely met someone with your passion for life, and even more rare, your dedication to spread that joy to anyone who would partake. I will always remember your sense of humor, especially your ability to laugh at yourself, gently. I watched you buoy the spirits of others as a way of life; you certainly did mine. As my 11 year old said through tears when she heard of your passing, “He made my daddy happy.”
Larry, you are such a dear and special person! Our conversations together were like a coffee break in a faculty break room—intellectual while discussing cognitive psychology and Burns’ “Feeling Good”, but also very much personal—your passion for photography, our families, and our different experiences at UT-Austin. Such an easy person to be with, and always with that quick smile. I’m certain that I am only one of hundreds who have been similarly touched and graced by your friendship.
Claire, I’m so glad you all moved to Texas and gave us the wonderful opportunity to get to know your husband. We will keep you, Erik, and Jessica in our prayers and thoughts.
AJ
Dear friend…
You were a great friend when I needed one and a wonderful angel for Nancy and I as we learned your lessons for love. You are free of all burdens today and we are left to be your examples to the rest of our Christian community. Thanks for your friendship and gentle counsel. Be with the Lord and rest….
Love, Brad & Nancy
Claire,
I am thinking of you.
Holding you in my heart and in my prayers.
With sympathy and love,
Rita Gibbs
Our son Ryan is married to Larry’s beloved daughter, Jessica. Larry and Claire have been “family” to us from the first time we met at their lovely home for lunch. The years have flown by, and we have treasured each and every time we have been together. My fondest memories are of us following Ryan around during marathons, with Larry trying to get us to the perfect spot for photos; our dinners together when we would discuss many things (but mostly our children); being proud parents at our children’s beautiful Costa Rica wedding; a weekend at Lake Travis and an unforgettable ride in his boat and dip in the lake; and special memories of the two times they came to our East Texas ranch where Larry was fascinated with driving the tractor. He made Robert and I both feel very special, important and loved. My heart goes out to Claire, Jessica, Erik, Ryan, Shelly and all his family members, friends and clients, because I know how much they will miss him. We were so blessed to have known him and he will always live in our memory and in our hearts.
In a way it’s ironic that there is a website for tributes to Larry, because I don’t think he even used an email address – such an old-fashioned guy. Yet otherwise I would never have the chance to let you, Claire, and your family know what a wonderful man Larry was to us. The way he got us back on track was so amazing and with such a personal and caring touch. I wish we could thank him again. What an amazing life, cut way too short. You all are in our thoughts and prayers. May peace be with Larry and all of you.
Larry was there for me in my darkest days, a soothing and inspiring
counselor and friend. He was the epitome of empathy, warmth, and genuineness, gently assisting me in gathering myself together and moving on. I know I was one of thousands he assisted so ably. I will miss his warm presence, but know that he is still a part of the universe he so loved. Rest in peace, dear Larry.
Larry my friend and doctor I will miss you for the rest of my life. You taught me so much about myself and about life. You lifted my spirits when I went through dark times. You were first my doctor and then my friend. I always looked forward to our occassional lunches when we talked about work, family, swimming, photography and life. I will cherish our last visit from late last year.
Your gentle spirit, ever enduring optimism and keen insight served hundreds of people so well. I have read all your books and refer to them often. I have given them as gifts to others and they were always welcome. Gosh I’m going to miss you. Thank you so much for being part of my life.
Larry, Steve Richman and I were pledge and fraternity bothers and roommates at Temple University. Many of Steve’s thoughts, I echo. After college, we lost touch, although I did speak with him a few times on the phone. Larry and I finally had a chance to get together again this past February when I was in Austin at attend a wedding. Although he was very ill, he came to meet me at my hotel and he drove me around to many of the places important to him: his office, Claire’s place work and finally the outdoor swimming pool where he continued a sport he had participated in since childhood. When we said goodbye, we embraced. I feel extremely fortunate to have known Larry and to have the chance to say goodbye.
Claire,
My thoughts are with you and your family. I am sorry that I never knew your beloved Larry. He sounds like an incredible person and I truly believe that his spirit will continue to guide his loved ones, as well as the many whose lives he touched personally and professionally.
With warmth and sympathy,
Judy Mounty
I am deeply saddened by Larry’s death. He literally saved my life in 1990 after the death of my 13 year old daughter, Melissa Mitchell. He helped me find a reason to live and walked with me on the long, long road of grief for several years. I will always hold him in my heart. He was truly one of a kind. There is no counselor as intuitive, understanding, thought provoking, and kind as he. There never will be.
Jan Downs
Dearest Friend,
Larry, you were a gift to the Casa de Luz community, a bright light that will continue to shine in our hearts. You are love personified. You wisdom and the memory of your presence will live on in the hearts of all of us that loved you so much at Casa de Luz.
Thank you for blessing our lives,
Wayo and the Casa de Luz Community
My thoughts and prayers go out to Larry’s family and especially to Claire and his children. I met Larry several times and was so impressed with his gentle spirit. He will be missed by many. Joan Forney
Having special friendships, truly special ones, does not happen very often. I did not understand this when I was a younger person, but I have been fortunate to have had a very few of them in my life. My relationship with Larry Bugen was one of those, and the loss of that is heartbreaking to all who knew and loved him. As with others Larry and I shared some difficult, heartbreaking, warm, funny, stupid, inspiring, and rarely lazy times together, never to be forgotten. He was my one male confidant that I could rely upon, anytime, any issue. I will greatly miss you, my friend.
As you once said at another friend’s memorial service, “Va bene.”
Rick Himes
I never met Larry, yet a bit of Larry lives in all of us.
Adventure, Hope, Pride of Family, and of course, the sorrows of a life well-lived.
I do know his sister, Shelly Bugen Devine. The dignity, the grace, the instilled values of Family shine within Shelly, and reflect the prism that generated from parents who cared, and gave.
To paraphrase a quote I have always loved: :Joy He Gave ; Joy He has Found.
Fly Free.
Denise Harrington-Pflieger
I first met Larry at the Austin downtown YMCA. He always had a smile and genuine interest in what was happening in my life. He was a great person with an always positive attitude. There will be a large void where Larry walked. Rest in peace, my friend.
So many thoughts, so many memories of the man I knew and loved.
Larry and I were college roommates and fraternity brothers at Temple University back in the 60’s. Some of those stories, you can understand, are better left unpublished. Following graduation life took us in different directions and after my wedding we lost contact for many years. Fortunately, through the efforts of my wife, Sharon, who was attending a conference in Austin in the 90’s and reached out to Larry, were able to correct that situation. Soon, we resumed a close friendship as if a day hadn’t passed. It seemed rather humorous to me at the time that Larry would re-locate to Texas, the land of giant bugs. You see, when we were in college Larry was quite afraid of these creatures — especially roaches. Occasionally (but not too often, because as college boys we always kept our apartment clean), I would come home after Larry had gone out and find glasses, plates or even trash cans upside down in the kitchen or living room. There would be a note from Larry with instructions to kill the insect trapped inside. And this from a guy who prided himself on staying in excellent physical condition.
We subsequently visited Larry and Claire in Austin and met up with each other on trips to Las Vegas and New Orleans. I can still remember golfing in Vegas with Larry in 100 degree plus heat! Larry visited us in upstate New York on one of his many photography trips and was “kind” enough to share some old college stories with our sons. Nearly three years ago he and Claire visited us in our new home in Philadelphia, shortly after we moved here. Larry was insistent on exploring some old haunts and had me driving around neighborhoods I really preferred to avoid. He was calm, I was not.
That’s the last time we saw each other. At the time we were both recovering (or so I thought) from bouts with cancer, having been diagnosed around the same time with different types of this dread disease. Little did we know what the next several years would hold for Larry and Claire.
The guy I knew in college changed over the years. I guess we all do, to a degree. He married, raised two wonderful children, became a highly successful clinician and author and gave back to his community in so many ways. I was, and sill am in awe of his photography. It has inspired me over the years to improve my own photographic skills. But most of all Larry became a gentle and wise soul. His concern for others was apparent in so many ways. He cherished and nurtured positive relationships among family, friends and colleagues. He not only talked the talk, he walked the walk. He cared deeply for those around him and made you feel when you were with him that you were the most important person in the world. You could talk to Larry — about almost anything — and he would listen and provide guidance. Sometimes we would talk over the phone after a prolonged period of little contact and he would say, “hey good buddy”. And then the words would spill out. At the end of the conversation he would always say, “love you”.
So goodbye good buddy; I love you too. Rest in peace.
I will always have fond memories of meeting Larry for the first time, when he interviewed me for a position on Hospice Austin’s operating board. I was struck by his compassion, his enthusiasm, and his intense personal interest: when he asked you questions, he really cared about what you had to say. It was a wonderful experience, and a significant reason for my involvement in hospice care. I will always be grateful to Larry for opening that door for me. We will miss him, but he has left a wonderful legacy through the people he touched.
Scott
Larry,
I will never forget you. You helped all of us to see the good within ourselves. What an extraordinary gift you were to all of us. Thank you for 20 years of support and friendship. You made the world a better place.
Much love,
Marjorie
Larry and I were YMCA friends. He always had a glow to him that made me want to talk to him and I also found him rather Hip in a way that was nice. Reminded me a bit of Donald Sutherland. Great sense of humor and energy. My regards, to his family and friends. John
Within minutes of meeting Larry seven years ago, he asked how my relationship with my live-in boyfriend was going. Always fascinated by interpersonal relationships! There was an immediate light and warmth exuding from Larry that was clearly felt by many. Jess, I know I will share many stories and memories of your Dad as our friendship and families grow in the coming years.
All my love,
Rachel
First, we were your clients; then you were my client. And it was good. It was all good. It was all grace. “Into your hands, O merciful God, we commend your servant Larry. Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming. Receive him into the arms of your mercy, into the blessed rest of everlasting peace, and into the glorious company of the saints in light. Amen.” (BCP)
Larry’s death leave a huge hole in so many lives. He will be greatly missed.However,the gifts he gave each of us will live on in our daily journeys in this world. Thank you, Larry, for the love you so easily poured out on us. We are better people because of you.
Patty
Dear Larry,
I am so saddened by your health troubles. You have made a huge difference in my life and the lives of my children. But you know that! I’m not sure where I would be without the help, guidance, and support I received from you. You took my hand and helped me walk out of the darkness that was my life. I wish that I could do as much for you.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
With humble gratitude,
Jan